I often ask people who they would like to be, what they would be doing, and who they would be sharing their lives with five years from now if there were no limits on them. Wave the magic wand and anything is possible! Every once in a while it is wonderful to sit down with a quiet mind and a cup of tea and think about what your dreams are.
I found myself doing this in the early summer when I had the opportunity to look at my professional future. Although I was really afraid, I allowed myself to dream. I was coming our of a very challenging work situation and as tough as it had been it allowed me to have a clearer vision of what I wanted for the future as well as what I didn’t want. Much of the direction I have taken in my life has been the result of my childhood experiences with abuse. I knew I did not want to continue to experience abuse. I dreamed of a life in which people treated each other with love, compassion, and respect; someone who loved me for who I was. I dreamed of someday doing something that would help others who had been abused. I dreamed of having a cozy home in which I could find a safe refuge. It didn’t have to be fancy or big but it did need to provide me with safety. I dreamed of having lots of books to read and wonderful places to travel to. Those dreams remained in my mind’s eye and continue to be what I envision today.
I wish it had been as simple as waving a magic wand for me to attain my dreams. It was often stormy as I began my journey out of abuse. My life was like a roller coaster. When things started going well I would sabotage it because I did not trust success and didn’t think I deserved it. I often slipped back to the young girl who thought it was my fault that my father abused my mother and that I experienced emotional abuse. Gradually I would get my confidence back and start moving towards my dreams again. Then I would hit another place where I would let my fear get the better of me. I have repeated this pattern many times in my life with the distance between the hills and valleys getting longer and the amount of incline and decline becoming less. Today I am fortunate to live my dreams. I have been fortunate but I doubt if I would be where I am if I had not had a vision of what I wanted my life to look like.
What are your dreams?
What is important to you?
If you could wave a magic wand and have the life you wanted what would it look like?
Sometimes when we think of our dreams they seem far to big and overwhelming. It may even seem hopeless but it isn’t. You, like me may not obtain them as soon as you dream them but, you can keep your dreams in your minds eye and start walking towards them. What small steps can you take towards your dreams? Those small steps add up and start compounding. Before you know it if you look at what you have accomplished you will find yourself moving towards your dreams and enjoying the journey.
We have magical abilities to create the realities we dream of if we believe and work towards those dreams!
Wishing you wonderful dreaming!