“This is my wish for you: Comfort on difficult days, smiles when sadness intrudes, rainbows to follow the clouds, laughter to kiss your lips, sunsets to warm your heart, hugs when spirits sag, beauty for your eyes to see, friendships to brighten your being, faith so that you can believe, confidence for when you doubt, courage to know yourself, patience to accept the truth, Love to complete your life.” author unknown
I have been thinking a lot lately about the beauty of friendships!
I have talked to people who tell me about ‘friends’ who do horrible things to them. For some, ‘friends’ were partners in illegal actions and then told police that their ‘friend’ was the sole perpetrator. A ‘friend’ who gave a person a date rape drug. Another woman who had been raped by a person in her circle of friends and found that others in the group did not believe that it had happened. So she struggled for years with flashbacks, nightmares while at the same time she felt unsupported and at times laughed at by her ‘friends’. And yet she stood by them and although far less frequently, still socialized with them. She still considered them ‘friends’. I wondered what friendship meant to each of them.
I find it impossible to think of anyone who have been involved in such horrendous actions as ‘friends’. A large part of my healing from abuse and living an abuse free life has been surrounding myself with people who I share mutual caring, trust, and support with; people who trust that the other would never do anything physically or emotionally harmful to them. For me it the solid base I build my abuse free life on and I am blessed to have wonderful people around me.
For each of you I wish for you to know that you ‘deserve’ to have wonderful friends in your lives who respect, love, and honour you.
May you have friends who you can trust to tell your dreams, worries, joys and sorrows to.
May you have friends who ‘brighten your being’ and who you are willing to do the same for.